I first published this poem about comparison on the blog a few months ago and wanted to bring it to life because poetry is to be performed just as it is to be read! So, have a listen and enjoy.
To me, comparison is such a relevant topic that affects us unknowingly at times.
Everyday our minds are filled with thousands of images or aspirations - from books, films, TV, social media, all sorts - and if we're not cautious, we can quite easily find ourselves discouraged when we look at others.
A little voice suggests that things should be like this. Life should go this way. I should look like her. My body would look better if it was like his. Their new car is so much nicer than mine... And the list goes on eternally.
But you are uniquely you and that is your power. Flaws and all, you hold too much greatness within to let comparison diminish who you are or what you have.
I wrote this spoken word poem because it’s something I’ve been through. Wondering why I am, but not like her. Thinking I’d be better, if only this. There came a time when I had to shut out the noise and focus on becoming the best me. The authentic me.
We’ve heard so many times that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ but when Pastor Michael Todd said ‘the fastest way to get disqualified is to get into someone else’s lane’ I felt that! Whew. Comparison pushes you into someone else's lane whilst you neglect your own.
You see, comparison is deceitful because you never know what someone else is going through behind closed doors. And you can’t compare your truth to a facade your mind has built of them. The life that appears perfect may not even be real at all. Meanwhile your blessings are just around the corner and are exactly what you need...
If anything I've written rings a bell and you're now asking 'how can I stop comparing myself to others?' - I'm here to share a few helpful tips on how to overcome, from my personal perspective.
How to stop comparing yourself to others - helpful things to remember
Cleanse your socials
Start by unfollowing (or muting) social media accounts that make you feel down about yourself. It's really not worth it. If needed, take regular breaks from social media altogether and be more mindful of the things you allow to influence you. Out of sight means out of mind, leaving you more time to focus on yourself.
Recognise your individuality
As I said above, you are uniquely you and that is your power. Drawing inspiration from others is a beautiful thing, but if it leaves you despising yourself then it's a disservice. Hone in on the things that make you who you are. Relish in what you adore about yourself and magnify that.
Trust your process
What is yours will be yours so you don't need to be envious of anyone else. Trust in what God has in store for your life and maintain that their blessing doesn't take away from yours.
Reflect regularly with yourself
Focus on where you're at currently and how you'd like to improve. Set goals that stem from yourself and not from what others are doing and having. Define what success or fulfilment looks like to you and run with that.
More gratitude, less complaints
When you need less, you will always have more and that's a fact. Gratitude goes a long way and I've personally come to find that when I'm content in the simplicity of who I am and what I have, more is added in the right time. Yet, when I stress about needing more, the abundance I have becomes diminished. It's all about perspective.
If you find yourself constantly comparing to others and wanting more, take a step back and push yourself to speak on what you're currently grateful for.
I hope this spoken word poem and short tips have given you some encouragement when it comes to dealing with the negative end of comparison. Remember, changes don't always happen overnight so be patient with yourself and your process!
- Faithful xoxo
About the Author:
Faith Olajuyigbe is a Birmingham based writer. She has a background in drama with a focus on writing poetry, blogs and more.
Through her work, she explores themes such as love, life, faith, passion and purpose. Faith is a true creative at heart and also enjoys videography and editing.
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